Out of the Ghetto - reality check

Came across this very interesting posting on a site I long ago bookmarked for some reason - GoldaLeah's well-written Go West, Young Jew. What interested me, apart from the posting itself, were the Comments, including the Conservative 'Twelve Steps to Keeping Kosher'. In both of the versions (12-step and 8-step) quoted, separating meat and milk and waiting between meat and milk came before eating only kosher meat. While I respect every attempt to give positive guidance in the difficult process of changing behaviour, and I assume that the advice is based on experience - can someone help me understand the logic?